Being Mean to Paula Deen
If you are a female over fifty, the fashion industry’s decades-long promotion of impossibly slender bodies as the ultimate image of what is sexy and beautiful is getting umm, OLD. Stale. Has. Been. Used. Up.
Not many women would deny that the mantra of “skinny is the only pretty” hasn’t abused the womanly psyche connecting us all to motherhood, the goddess, and the girl; to a genuinely healthy self-image.
Or that this toxic mantra has influenced ourselves, our daughters, and countless sister women for far too long.
A disappointing affirmation of the old pervasive power of skinny-pretty showed up in a recent Huff post about Paula Deen’s diabetes. Written by a self-appointed leader of women in my age group, it thinly :) disguises an all out support of the ‘skinny-pretty’ ethos behind the word ‘healthy’.
Like the comedienne who digs in and reams her own ethnic/cultural background in ways nobody on the outside can, I’m calling this one out.
In Embrace Your Inner Potbelly I owned that “gosh being a shining role model of ‘aging well’ takes A LOT of work–been there, done that.” I can confess that at age 51 my buy-in to maintaining a skinny-pretty size six through peri-menopause and beyond was to:
- eat no gluten or sugar
- never drink alcohol
- consume tiny portions of expensive organic food
- work out doing cardio 5x a week and yoga 3x a week
I kept this up for three years. A deep sense of burnout, the natural consequences of aging, and cupcake depravation made me get real.
Thank goodness for thinkers and truth tellers like writer Dorothy Sander, who names a good chunk of what’s at the heart of this so well in a recent post:
I feed my beauty now as a size 12, I love my body, LOVE food–yum. I can’t wait to write more.
Disclaimer so I will feel okay about not publishing certain kinds of comments: Diabetes is serious. It is in my family. It can happen through poor choices, genetics, or both. Books and articles from the medical community about the healthy eating choices you need make to help protect against diabetes and support good health in general can be found in libraries, book stores and on websites.